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Welcome to Kill the Star Zone, a platform dedicated to adults navigating life with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). Here, we explore ADHD from a personal perspective, offering insights on Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), ADHD symptoms, and practical advice for living with ADHD.

Kill the Star Zone is part of the Adult ADHD Organization, a leading entity focused on raising awareness and understanding of ADHD in adults. Our mission is to educate, support, and empower individuals by sharing real-life experiences and expert content.

The Adult ADHD Organization also partners with businesses to provide training and awareness programs, promoting inclusive and supportive work environments for neurodiverse employees.

Through this blog, we aim to offer a unique viewpoint, grounded in personal experience, and to foster a community where everyone feels understood and valued. Whether you're here to learn more about ADHD for yourself or to support someone you care about, we're glad you're here.

Explore our content, join our community, and if you're a business looking to enhance your team's understanding of neurodiversity, check out our training services."

The ADHD mind is often described as going a million miles an hour, a metaphor that vividly captures the constant stream of thoughts and ideas racing through an individual's brain.

 

The best quote written about ADHD

“It is growing up different. It is extreme hypersensitivity. It is a bottomless pit of feeling you're failing, but three days later, you feel you can do anything, only to end the week where you began. It is not learning from your mistakes. It is distrusting people because you have been hurt enough. It is moments of knowing your pain is self inflicted, followed by blaming the world. It is wanting to listen, but you just can’t anymore because your life has been to full of people that have judged you. It is fighting to be right; so for once in your life someone will respect and hear you for a change. It is a tiring life of endless games with people, in order to seek stimulus. It is a hyper focus, so intense about what bothers you, that you can’t pay attention to anything else, for very long. It is a never-ending routine of forgetting things. It is a boredom and lack of contentment that keeps you running into the arms of anyone that has enough patience to stick around. It wears you out. It wears everyone out. It makes you question God’s plan. You misinterpret everything, and you allow your creative mind to fill the gaps with the same old chains that bind you. It narrows your vision of who you let into your life. It is speaking and acting without thinking. It is disconnecting from the ones you love because your mind has taken you back to what you can’t let go of. It is risk taking, thrill seeking and moodiness that never ends. You hang your hope on “signs” and abandon reason for remedy. It is devotion to the gifts and talents you have been given, that provide temporary relief. It is the latching onto the acceptance of others---like a scared child abandoned on a sidewalk. It is a drive that has no end, and without “focus” it takes you nowhere. It is the deepest anger when someone you love hurts you, and the greatest love when they don't. It is beauty when it has purpose. It is agony when it doesn’t. It is called Attention Deficit Disorder.”

― Shannon L. Alder 

 

 

 

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Welcome to our website! At "About Us," we aim to enhance your understanding of Adult ADHD beyond the common stereotypes often associated with the condition. Our platform serves as an avenue for sharing personal experiences and valuable insights that often go unnoticed in mainstream discussions.

Living with ADHD comes with its unique challenges that extend beyond seeking attention. Through this platform, we shed light on the realities of managing ADHD on a daily basis, providing a glimpse into the emotional complexities and struggles faced by individuals with the condition.

Driven by a passion to combat misinformation, we strive to bridge the gap between personal experiences and professional insights. Our goal is to create a supportive community where the nuances of Adult ADHD are explored and understood, fostering empathy, awareness, and mutual support.

While medications and therapy can alleviate some ADHD symptoms, it's important to recognize that they are not a cure-all solution. Emotional dysregulation, a significant aspect of ADHD, persists even with treatment. We emphasize the importance of a comprehensive approach to managing ADHD, encompassing education, support, and understanding beyond medication alone.

Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) is another key aspect that significantly impacts the emotional well-being of individuals with ADHD. By addressing emotional dysregulation and educating individuals and families about the broader challenges associated with ADHD, we aim to empower our community to navigate their ADHD journey with resilience and confidence.

 

This is how I describe what this site is all about - which says everything & nothing at the same time?

Could it be a rebel anthem against societal norms? A battle cry for those who defy linear paths and zigzag through life like comets on caffeine.“Kill the Star” is a rebel anthem for those who defy the concept of confirming to meet society expectations of who they should be.

In the ADHD in Adults world, where our words fail us and our motives go  misunderstood, “Kill the Star” defies logic. It’s not about making sense; it’s about making stardust. It’s about embracing the paradox, killing the star, and letting the universe wonder why.

This blog is a space for those who see the world differently. It’s for those who feel the rhythm in the chaos, who find the melody in the noise. It’s for those who turn the world upside down and shake it until stardust falls out.

So, to our fellow cosmic wanderers, we say this: Embrace the paradox. Kill the star. And let the universe wonder why.

Adult Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)

 

My Journey with ADHD

Growing up, I always felt different. While others seemed to glide effortlessly through life, I was constantly battling an invisible force that made even the simplest tasks feel monumental. School was a maze of distractions and frustration. I struggled to keep up with deadlines, and my mind was a whirlwind of ideas that I couldn’t quite grasp or organize. Social interactions often left me feeling misunderstood and isolated.

Despite these challenges, it wasn’t until adulthood that I began to suspect that ADHD might be the underlying cause of my struggles. Like many adults, I had internalized the idea that I was simply lazy, unmotivated, or not trying hard enough. It was a revelation to learn that my brain was wired differently, and that my experiences were not a result of personal failure, but of a neurological condition that had gone unrecognized and untreated.

 

Why I Started "Kill the Star"

The name "Kill the Star" is a metaphor for my journey. For years, I felt like I was constantly chasing after an unattainable ideal, a star that was always out of reach. This blog is about letting go of that unreachable star and embracing our true selves, with all our imperfections and unique strengths.

What makes "Kill the Star" different is that it’s not just another source of clinical information about ADHD. While there are many resources available that provide medical and therapeutic advice, I found that there was a significant gap in the conversation: the lived experiences of adults like us, who navigate the complexities of ADHD every day without the benefit of a diagnosis or treatment.

My Mission

My mission is to bridge this gap by sharing real, unfiltered stories about living with ADHD. Through personal anecdotes, practical tips, and community support, I aim to create a space where we can learn from each other, find solidarity, and advocate for better understanding and resources for adult ADHD.

 

What You’ll Find Here

Personal Stories: I’ll share my own experiences with ADHD, from the daily challenges to the unexpected victories. By putting a human face on ADHD, I hope to foster a sense of connection and reduce the stigma that often surrounds this condition.

Practical Advice: Living with ADHD requires a unique set of strategies and coping mechanisms. I’ll offer tips and tricks that have worked for me, as well as insights from others in our community. Whether it’s time management, organization, or maintaining relationships, you’ll find practical advice tailored to the ADHD brain.

Expert Insights: While personal experience is invaluable, I also believe in the importance of informed advice. I’ll feature guest posts from doctors, therapists, and other professionals who specialize in ADHD, but with a focus on practical, relatable guidance rather than clinical jargon.

Community Support: One of the most powerful aspects of "Kill the Star" is our community. By sharing our stories and supporting each other, we can create a network of understanding and encouragement. Whether you’re newly diagnosed, suspect you have ADHD, or have been living with it for years, you’ll find a welcoming and supportive community here.

 

Join Me on This Journey

 

If you’ve ever felt like you’re struggling to keep up in a world that doesn’t quite understand you, you’re not alone. "Kill the Star" is a place where we can come together, share our experiences, and support each other in our journey with ADHD. By raising our voices and sharing our stories, we can foster a deeper understanding of ADHD and advocate for the resources and support that adults with ADHD deserve.

Thank you for being here, and for being part of this journey. Together, we can kill the unattainable star and embrace our true, brilliant selves.

 

Don't you write any books?

I've authored eight books on adult ADHD, which I plan to publish on Kindle and Barnes & Noble in late August and September 2024.